Leadership Development and Behaviour Pattern -Part -4- I am O.K. , You are Not O.K.

Today we would discuss the relationship styles of the second Life position viz. I am O.k. but you are not O.K. the egoistic , self centred and adamant position one takes in life.

I'm OK,You're Not OK)
Generally a person in this life position takes a holier-than-thou attitude. This is reflected in an attitude of superiority. The various styles in this position are as follows
Prescriptive (Regulating Parent)
Such a manager has the opportunity to establish proper norms for subordinates and to ensure that these are followed; a consultant indicates to clients what he or she thinks they should do and is unhappy when they do not act according to the instructions; a trainer regards his or her main role as one of laying down detailed rules and
regulations for learners and ensuring that these are properly followed. Such people are also overcritical of others.
Patronizing (Nurturing Parent
In this style, nurturance and support are provided by almost imposing oneself on others. The manager provides support and makes it obvious that he or she is doing the subordinate a favour as the latter is not capable of taking care of himself or herself. A consultant with this style treats the client like a child and shows him or her favour by giving advice and support. This style is particularly obvious in a trainer, who may show favour to remind learners that he or she is taking care of them as they are more or less helpless.
Task-obsessive (Adult)
The manager, consultant, or trainer in this style is primarily concerned with tasks and is so obsessed with the work to be done that he or she overlooks various other things. In. In task-obsessiveness, the individual takes responsibility for completing the tasks himself or herself and involves others in secondary roles only. .
Complaining (Adaptive Child)
This person tries to adapt and seeks safety, but feels that he or she does not have the situations he or she deserves. This is reflected in complaining behaviour. A manager finds fault with the organization and with other managers and employees; a trainer is unhappy but only expresses general complaints; a consultant points out various external factors responsible for slow progress.
Aggressive (Reactive Child)
A person with this style is likely to show aggressiveness through infighting, making heavy demands, fighting, or going back to the same issues and never allowing these to be settled. The result of all such behaviour is that he or she gets alienated. People do not take such a person seriously for long
Bohemian (Creative Child )
Such a person does not seem able to sustain a single idea and is obsessed with finding new ideas all the time. He or she overwhelms subordinates, clients, or colleagues with the new ideas he or she gets.