Leadership development lessons - Behavior pattern and styles- Part -5

The third life postion is the positive and most desirable. I am O.K. You are O.K. a matured balanced aproach to life and a mind inclined to accept others views. When applied to various Egostates this produce the following combinations.
The Competent (or I'm OK, You're OK)
People with this life position are creative, confident of themselves, and competent. They have respect for themselves as well as for others. The following six styles may be shown in this position
Normative (Regulating Parent)
This manager, consultant, or trainer is concerned with setting appropriate norms but involves subordinates, clients, or learners both in evolving these norms and in deciding how such
Supportive (Nurturing Parent)
A person with this style provides the necessary support needed by others with whom he or she interacts. Support is provided only if such support is either solicited or needed.
Problem-solving (Adult)
This person's concern is to solve the problem by working himself or herself and involving others in it as well. This is different from being obsessed with the task. It is ironical that excessive concern with tasks may sometimes come in the way of a solution to a problem.
Resilient (Adaptive Child)
This style is characterized by functional adaptation. The person assesses the situation and adapts to suit it This is effective contingency behaviour. A manager is quick to assess the situation and quicker to change his or her approach if needed. A trainer or consultant gives up the well-prepared plans of teaching or intervention if the situation demands a different approach.
Confronting (Reactive Child)
Aggressiveness is characteristic of this style. However, aggressiveness becomes functional when the person does not give up but perseveres and is content only when the problem is solved. This is confrontation of the problem. A distinction needs to be made between pseudo confrontation (expression of aggression to people and real confrontation (reflected in concern with the problem). Even when an issue has to be explored with a person, in effective confrontation the focus remains on the particular issue or problem and the other person is not a target.
Innovative(creative child)
A person with this style is not satisfied with the available solutions but continuously searches for new ways of solving a problem or new methods to be used. However, the person is also interested in stabilizing such an innovation before going on to new ones